Please read the part one here Samaira’s tryst with superstition
21st century is the age of technology and everyday brings a new technological surprise as we advance with jet speed towards new discoveries. We may have landed on the moon but still worship it and for some of us, the image of the old woman sitting and spinning on the moon is almost real. Like the mythological stories we are fed on when we are growing up, superstitions too become part of us. Of late, my life too has been surrounded by rituals and superstitions. I wonder if that is the fate of every young woman of marriageable age!
Mother is hell bent that I should try every trick in the book; anything it takes that would help me ‘catch a good match’. Every day try to please some God, you never know who might just answer Ma’s prayer. These days every blessing I get from her is ‘God help her find a good son-in-law for me’ but ‘Ma’, I try to reason out and a series of lecture follow, ‘you don’t know what it takes to find a good boy’ and in my heart I say, ‘tell me about it’!
Here I thought I have been brought up in a secular family which is not influenced by rituals. Being a Hindu Sikh, I was never told to visit any shrine, I was free to follow and observe what I wanted, no questions asked… But now it is a different story. It seems Ma has receded to the dark ages. I don’t know whether it is a cause to rejoice or be sad that now she has even reconciled to the idea of I finding myself a match till the time he is ‘a good boy from a good family’! Too late in the day, I say to myself. Back to superstitions – I have done everything from offering flowers, pulses, different days, different gods (even gods have preferences, I never knew that till this started).
Of course I do all this religiously! Anything to see a smile on Ma’s face. But beat this one; some pandit suggested I donate a piece of blue cloth to someone who needs it. My sister came out with a brilliant idea, “buy me a pair of blue jeans, I desperately need one!” “Don’t make fun of traditions”, is what I was told. But I say, there is a thin line between traditions and superstitions and we are blindfolded.
I have a wish list for Santa Claus that includes all that I want in the person I eventually wish to marry. Should I believe that Santa will present my prince charming to me this Christmas? Or is that being superstitious, blind in faith or just religious?
Chances of my finding someone are as dull or bright as they were yesterday!!!
So this Sam’s story…Help her figure this out, someone!